So you might have noticed things have been a bit off and on with my blog over the last few months and it is time to fess up.
Yes I have been studying (about 40 hours a week) and working (30 hours a week) plus trying to have some sort of a life and making plans for our move to NZ in early 2017.
On top of this as I mentioned last year Hubby and I have been trying for a baby. After more than 6 years of trying we went down the IVF path and now we are expecting our first baby in Early October.
The first 3 months have gone relatively smoothly and now as I head into the second trimester the all day nausea has stopped and just a bit of tiredness remains. Obviously it is still early days and we hope everything will go smoothly.
We are now making plans for the new life that will join us in what I am sure will feel like no time at all. We are already having some serious conversations about how we want to parent and so far the verdict from the family is that they think we will be quite strict.
We are also thinking about the way we live and how that will impact on our parenting style.
I know there are plenty of parents among my followers so I am sure I will have a solid sounding board and positive suggestions which I look forward to. I know we will find our own way but there is not harm in getting a variety of ideas from those who have been there before.
Stay tuned for more news.
The biggest of congratulations to you both!
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DeleteCongratulations, what an exciting and happy time.
ReplyDeleteThanks Margaret
DeleteOh Wow Fiona....what fabulous news...so happy for you and your man. Sounds like big changes coming up all round. You are going to be a very busy girl.
ReplyDeleteThanks Suzie and yes busy is the word that springs to mind until Uni finishes in June
DeleteYay fee! So excited for you both!
ReplyDeleteThanks Liz glad you can share this journey with us.
DeleteYay fee! So excited for you both!
ReplyDeleteCongratulations to the both of you I know wanting to be parents for the first time can be a very long road for some and the fact that you both never gave up hope of your dream I'm so happy for you. It is very exciting time and I know that your little one growing up on a property in NZ you will give him or her a wonderful childhood growing veggies, maybe a tyre swing on a big tree....chickens and the like. Make sure you look after yourself and if you need to take twice as long to do your study once day you will still get there...that little baby is so precious and you will need to rest and look after yourself. Your body is working hard for 2 people. I'm so happy for you. Being a mother is amazing, first baby is a huge shock to the system with sleepless nights and exhaustion but we all get through it and they bring you so much joy. I'm so happy for you both. Regards Kathy A, Brisbane
ReplyDeleteThanks Kathy that is great advice. We are looking forward to providing a simple childhood for our child. I know the end is is sight with the business as once Uni is over in June the pressure will be off. Hubby is being very helpful doing all the house work except cooking.
DeleteCongratulations to you both, that is wonderful news Fiona.
ReplyDeleteThanks Barb
DeleteCongratulations to both of you, that is fantastic news. I am so happy for you!
ReplyDeleteThanks Jan
DeleteA huge congratulations, how exciting :)
ReplyDeleteThanks Deb
DeleteOh! I am so, so excited for you!! Congratulations! Wow your lives will soon be so different in many different ways. You will be such a great Mum. Lucky bubba-to-be. What a lovely time of life. xxx
ReplyDeleteAs for the parenting, apart from giving it thought, you can't plan it. It just sort of happens when you meet and love your little person. They start off so defenceless that parenting strategies don't really apply. Go with the flow and he/she will teach you. :-)
ReplyDeleteThanks Linda that is great advice.
DeleteThat is wonderful news - Congratulations! What an exciting year 2016 will be.
ReplyDeleteThanks Shangri La yes it is going to be a very exciting year for us.
DeleteAwesomeness!! This is great news. Though by the sounds of things, they'll be under 6 months old, when you move. Which will make things a little more challenging. But at least you'll have your family to help settle in, back in NZ.
ReplyDeleteAbout parenting, you'll figure your own style out. I'll tell you two things, I wish I'd figured out sooner than I did though. Develop patience (it was not my forte) and don't assume you will have the answers. A lot of things came naturally to me, as a mother, and a lot of stuff didn't. Kids will test you, and so will those observing how you're parenting, lol. If you give yourself permission to evolve into a mother, just like your new person will evolve into being a child, there won't be as much pressure on you to have all the answers yet.
The answers gestate over time. So, although I lacked patience in the beginning, I had to grow it with kids. It was kinder on them, and me. ;)
Thanks Chris. Yes they will be about 3 months old but yes we will have lots of family support. However I figure at that stage they will still be sleeping a lot which will help. Thanks for sharing your experience I hope things just flow as we develop as parents.
DeleteOh, boy...or girl! What wonderful news and what joys to look forward to. Congratulations!!!
ReplyDeleteThanks Meg we could not tell the sex as he/she was moving too much but we will find out at the next scan
DeleteThis is going to be one lucky child. So much effort, so much planning, so much care and so much love. Congratulations.
ReplyDeleteawesome news - so happy for you!
ReplyDeleteFiona - Hi, sorry I'm late to the party to congratulate you and hubby! So very pleased to hear your news you must be over the moon. You will be awesome parents. Wishing you all the best. cheers Wendy
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